Aloha Rose,
I pray that all is well with you. I have been doing pretty good for the most part. I have some concerns for my son LCJr (5-21-93). His father and I are now officially divorced and I'm so happy about that. My son on the other hand has been really having some odd behavior of sorts and I'm now at wits end and trying not to become a headliner on CNN. He's been screwing up majorly in school, disrespected me (but i nipped that one in the bud real quick), etc. meaning the typical lazy teenager that thinks the world rieses and sets on them. Well last night, he was out very late, without permission of course, and I think he had been doing something he had no business doing. I've tried talking, intervention, counseling and just don't know where to turn. It's not like his father is of any help at all and when he is, it's all about confusion for our son. Please help me to understand what's going on with him. I'm hurting for my son and don't know what to do.
Mahalo and Namaste,
Mobet
2 comments:
Sounds like you have a TEEN! I have the same issue with my 17yr old. His dad and I are attending a Family Connections course and I am hopeful this will help. There is a pretty good book called Parenting your Angry Teenager. It’s worth a shot... I hope and pray that I too succeed in parenting and I hope your teen turns around too!
Aloha Mobet
Your son is a teenager and angry about the divorce and going through the terrible teens. Adolescence is a difficult period for most of us and your son is no exception. Do not allow him to disrespect you or your house rules. I am a believer in tough love and prayer. Give him a curfew which he must adhere to. As much as we try to spare our children pain they have to learn the hard way...like we did/do? The diagnois is Adolescent Psychosis aggravated by divorce. Don't take any crap from him. And if he chooses to continue this behavior get out of his way and allow him his consequences. His protection, as always, is God's job. Pray hard. Praying always works.The rest is up to God. In cognitive behavioral therapy the aim is to reframe thinking, resulting in reframed feelings, then corresponding results. I will add LCjr to my prayer list.
Good luck Mobet.
Love and peace, Rose
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