Explain this spirit

Rose, Could you explain the spirit that i think is coming to me.....I know who she is, never met her on this Earth.
She is the mother of this man that i have been seeing for the last two years. I guess my first question is ....Is she really coming to me? And she only comes to me when i am upset with my relationship with her son. I keep getting the same vision....She has her hand on the small of my back, as to steady me, I am facing Robert, and our closest family and friends are in a circle around us...I think this is our wedding. Which at this time in our relationship, that seems to be a stretch...Tonight i was trying to mediate and was upset, thinking about just ending the relationship, and she was there stroking my hair....Is this real in the spirit world? SMB 8-12-64 and his is REB 1-20-51.