Divorcing and scared

Rose, I saw you on TV and thought I would take a chance at writing you. I am divorcing my husband after 7 years of marriage. I have dealt with 10 years of denied infidelity (from him). During this time of marriage I have dealt with and std, a couple afairs, and then a charge of rape and sexual assault conviction, and now many known sexual harrassment firings from past employers. All of course were denied by him saying he was set up. I have had a child with him in the process who his almost 3 yrs old. I have taken care of this child since he was born. My husband never got up ith him in the mornings to help me nor has he ever taken him to a doctors appointment. I have also conquered an illness called Crohns disease and several operations. None of which did my husband really help me or help me take care of my son. After my last operation, it was hard to take care of my son and he had someone help me for two days claiming he had to work so much. Since our pending divorce, he has seen his son and has asked for a couple weeks for summer vacation to visit with him and every other weekend. The weeks were split up. Now he is some how able to take all this time off of work to spend with our son since I am not there. I tried to hold on to the marriage, thinking the vows were something to live by. But, how much "For Better or Worse" is someone supposed to take? I was never allowed on any financial accounts, nor was allowed to have acredit card. I was a stay at home mom. I relied on him for support. I didn't get much money therefore it kept me house bound for a long time. The first court hearing the Judge imputed income from what he used to make for child support. It was a pretty large ammount, and I cannot say I am unhappy with the outcome. Getting the money has been a problem. He likes to deduct costs from support. I am trying to get my life back on track and I pray I meet a "Nice Honest Man" if there are some one day. I just hope and pray that I am doing the right thing.

Thanks, Jennifer